Episode 5 – Red Flags, Green Flags, and Non-Negotiables (Plus a Blooper!)

What sends you running for the hills—and what makes you want to stay and build? In this episode of Modern Polyamory, we’re digging into the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signals we look for in dating and relationships. From the classic red flags like love bombing and inconsistent communication, to underrated green flags like active listening and emotional accountability, we break down what matters most when forming connections—polyamorous or otherwise.

We also talk about our non-negotiables: the boundaries that help protect our energy, clarify our values, and keep our relationships rooted in self-respect. Whether you're new to dating or deep in the polyam trenches, this convo will help you reflect on what you really want (and what you're no longer willing to tolerate).

And yes, the Gravy Boat of Knowledge makes a return! This time we’re stirring the pot with some juicy relationship terms and hot takes, helping you deepen your vocabulary and your understanding of how these concepts show up in real life.

Plus: we left in a blooper. Completely unintentional, slightly embarrassing, and 100% human. You’re welcome.

🎧 In this episode:

• Red flags that don’t always look like red flags

• Green flags that deserve more hype

• How to identify your dealbreakers

• Why red flags are relative

• The Gravy Boat of Knowledge: our signature jargon segment

• And a behind-the-scenes moment that slipped through editing…

This one is equal parts thoughtful, relatable, and totally unfiltered. Grab a cup of tea (or something stronger) and come hang out with us.

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