Honouring my boundaries greatly improved my self esteem & the quality of my relationships

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More Will Be Revealed

Josephine Muttray

28 episodes

5 months ago

I created this podcast to share the most valuable life lessons I've learnt so far with you. Join me as I take you on an intimate journey through my twenties and into my early thirties, covering a wide range of topics including mental health, self-esteem, recovery, authenticity, intuition, relationships, love, sex, orgasms, spirituality, awakening and so much more.

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Honouring my boundaries greatly improved my self esteem & the quality of my relationships

More Will Be Revealed

39 minutes 48 seconds

1 year ago

Honouring my boundaries greatly improved my self esteem & the quality of my relationships

Understanding the concept of boundaries - what’s mine is mine and what’s yours is yours - freed me up to make authentic choices without the pressure of pleasing others. I learnt that nothing in life is ever personal: I am responsible for my thoughts and feelings, and you are for yours. Discovering and honouring my personal boundaries was integral to developing a high level of self-esteem, self-respect and self-trust.

Episode breakdown:

My ex-boyfriend and I were codependent: my boundaries were enmeshed with his.
In 12 Step recovery I learnt that it’s not possible for someone to hurt my feelings. In truth, I cause my own upset by the story I tell myself. e.g. “He did that, so he doesn’t love me.”
I am free to not take anything personally. When someone says or does something, it’s about them, always. I am responsible for the feelings their behaviour arouses in me.
In recovery I realised we are all free to make our own decisions, and that I never need to be upset by the choice someone else makes. In respecting other people’s right to choose what’s right for them, I gave myself the same freedom to do what feels right for me, and not what someone else might want.
In being true to myself, honouring my boundaries in my friendships and not trying to please others, I eventually met the people who love and accept me as I truly am.
It took a long time for me to apply these lessons to my relationships with men, but when I did, I finally became a self-respecting woman and attracted men who also respected me.
Honouring my boundaries with my current boyfriend often carried a risk of disappointing him or losing the relationship, but doing so created the foundation of our healthy and evolving relationship, in which we are each responsible for our part of the whole.

Book reference:

Getting to “I Do”, by Patricia Allen, Sandra Harmon

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