Danny Badorine joins me in discussing the role of negative feedback in our culture and the question "are people doing their best?" We delve into exploring what the multiple meanings that "doing your best" can convey, the role that an understanding of a truly "free" will plays in asking this question, the value of "rock bottom" in motivating people to adjust their behavior, the cultural epidemic of narcissism, the boundary between self care and self indulgence, the value of allowing the presence of painful emotions to exist in our lives, and more.
FACT CORRECTION
My reference to slavery was attempting to recall Qatar bringing in Indian labor and stealing their passports.
Danny's book recommendation: Autobiography Of A Yogi by Paramhansa Yogananda
Brené Brown podcast referenced on this topic: Part 1 Part 2
CHAPTERS
(0:00:00) Introduction
(0:03:07) Bus Call
(0:08:43) Importance of Confrontation
(0:17:06) Are people doing their best?
(0:22:51) Will vs Free Will
(0:36:48) Free Will and Sociopaths
(0:43:21) Would you oppose slavery?
(0:46:05) Role of intelligence and cultural programming
(0:57:24) Negative feedback in dog training
(1:01:32) Just trying to feel better
(1:10:38) The value of rock bottom
(1:18:18) My personal need for negative feedback
(1:23:45) Assertive vs Aggressive communication
(1:30:25) The "Feel Good" bubble, Self Care vs Self Indulgence
(1:36:41) Embracing pain in life
(1:45:54) Letting go vs giving up hope
(1:49:35) Empathy and tribalism
(1:56:32) Conclusion