I wanted to explore what it’s like for fat, black women navigating the treacherous world of sex and dating. Joining me to discuss this was Scotty Unfamous, one third of the sex positive Laid Bare podcast. We swapped stories about our dating experiences, getting in to kink and how to be more confident in the bedroom. I also revealed that the best way to win me over is via cup-cakes and eba, a traditional Nigerian dish. Send us your FAQs to NoCountryForYoungWomen@bbc.co.uk.