What if the behavior you see as "controlling" is actually a sign that your partner feels completely out of control inside? In this episode, therapists Caleb and Verlynda Simonyi-Gindele explore the paradox of control in relationships, revealing how a partner's need to manage schedules, finances, or friendships often stems from deep-seated fear, anxiety, or past trauma—not a desire to dominate.

Join us as we unpack the "why" behind these frustrating patterns and provide you with three actionable, therapist-approved steps to navigate them. You'll learn how to get curious instead of furious, practice healthy differentiation, and set loving boundaries that protect your peace without damaging your connection. This episode is for any couple feeling stuck in a cycle of frustration, looking for a path back to balance, understanding, and hope.

(Disclaimer: This episode discusses common frustrating dynamics in otherwise safe relationships. If you ever feel afraid or intimidated, your safety is the priority. Please see our show notes for domestic violence resources.)