Men are not simple human beings with basic needs, 

but are (like all human beings) complicated in that they carry with them a multitude of traumas and wounds that have never been processed, which can make them physically, emotionally, and mentally dissociated, preferring to escape from difficult conversations, exposing their emotions, and deep connection with their partner. 

Escape takes place through multiple behaviors (scrolling, TV, smoking, alcohol, sex, socializing, work, hobbies, sports...activities that are not “wrong” in themselves but become complicated if chosen to avoid connection with one's partner).

We see and hear this in many romantic relationships in our society (see the phenomenon of ghosting), but we continue with the narrative that women are a pain in the ass when in reality they are only looking for a deep and truthful connection (generally speaking, there are women who are just as avoidant). 

The first step is to stop defining ourselves as simple and basic in our needs and start looking at the complexity behind these behaviors.

In this episode, we study the AVOIDANT type of man in romantic relationships.

Happy Christmas Eve!