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21 - Quiet Confidence: How Emotionally Intelligent Women Lead Without Needing Recognition
On Purpose Christian Coaching for Women
15 minutes
2 months ago
21 - Quiet Confidence: How Emotionally Intelligent Women Lead Without Needing Recognition
📌 Description
Recognition is tricky: some of us shrink from it, others chase it. In this episode, Jamie shows how to walk the middle path—humble, confident, and rooted in God—so you can accept appreciation without idolizing it, lead without performing, and model healthy acknowledgment for your team and daughters.
🎧 In This Episode
The invisible leader: when hard work goes unnoticed—and what God forms in the quiet
Scripture’s balance on credit & humility (Philippians 2, Matthew 6, Proverbs 27, 1 Peter 5)
Two unhelpful defaults: minimizing your contribution vs. craving validation
Psychology of recognition: dopamine, identity, and emotionally intelligent receiving
Practical tools to steward (not seek) credit—for yourself and the people you lead
A reflection liturgy to reset motives and model quiet confidence
đź’¬ Favorite Quote
“God never asked you to dim your light to prove your humility—He asked you to reflect His.”
⏱️ Timestamps (15:31)
00:00 – The tension between wanting credit and feeling guilty about it
01:53 – Overlooked at work, the sting of invisibility, and a healthier view of recognition
06:02 – Humility vs. performance (Phil 2:3–4; Matt 6:1–4; Prov 27:2; 1 Pet 5:6)
08:06 – Minimizing vs. validation-seeking—and the middle path of quiet confidence
09:38 – Why praise feels good (dopamine) and how to anchor identity in Christ
11:23 –  Questions for motives, modeling recognition, leading your team well
13:30 – God’s timing for honor; staying faithful to the Audience of One
14:19 –  Coaching, team training, and next steps
đź”— Links & Resources
Work with Jamie: Clarity & Calling Coaching — coachjamiemiller.com/coaching
Teams & Culture: Leadership Training & Workshops — coachjamiemiller.com/services
Join the free On Purpose Community — courses.coachjamiemiller.com/community