Amanda Calfee - Christian Life Coach, Mama of Strong-willed & Neurodivergent Kiddos
25 episodes
2 days ago
Do you feel like you’ve tried everything — consequences, parenting books, well meaning parenting advice, crying out to God — and still feel like you’re failing?
Are you walking on eggshells, never knowing what will trigger your child’s next meltdown or shutdown?
Have you felt dismissed or judged by church culture when your child didn’t behave the way they “should”?
Do you find yourself yelling, shutting down, or spiraling with guilt — praying that tomorrow will be different?
I’m so glad you’re here. This podcast will help you regulate your emotions, reconnect with your child, and rebuild your confidence as a Christian mom — without losing control, feeling ashamed, or fixing everything.
You’ll learn how to show up with peace and presence, so you can parent without guilt and finally feel like yourself again.
Hey, I’m Amanda — a certified Christian life coach, mom of two neurodivergent kiddos, and former fix-it-all parenting researcher.
For years, I chased every method that promised quick change. I believed if I just found the right consequence, parenting strategy, or routine, I could turn things around. But the more I tried to control, the more disconnected we became.
Everything changed when I stopped parenting from fear and started anchoring in faith, emotional regulation, and connection. I let go of the pressure to fix behavior and began trusting God’s process — not just for my child, but for myself, too.
Now I help moms like you shift from survival mode into a grounded, grace-led way of being that transforms everything — without changing your child.
If you’re ready to parent beyond meltdowns — with tools that are rooted in faith, emotional stability, and connection — this podcast is for you.
If you’re tired of parenting advice that shames you or strategies that backfire with your neurodivergent child… you’re not alone.
Whether you’re raising a strong-willed kiddo, navigating sensory challenges, or questioning the parenting approach you were raised with… welcome.
Grab your favorite beverage, take a deep breath, and let’s walk this road together — one calm, connected step at a time.
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Do you feel like you’ve tried everything — consequences, parenting books, well meaning parenting advice, crying out to God — and still feel like you’re failing?
Are you walking on eggshells, never knowing what will trigger your child’s next meltdown or shutdown?
Have you felt dismissed or judged by church culture when your child didn’t behave the way they “should”?
Do you find yourself yelling, shutting down, or spiraling with guilt — praying that tomorrow will be different?
I’m so glad you’re here. This podcast will help you regulate your emotions, reconnect with your child, and rebuild your confidence as a Christian mom — without losing control, feeling ashamed, or fixing everything.
You’ll learn how to show up with peace and presence, so you can parent without guilt and finally feel like yourself again.
Hey, I’m Amanda — a certified Christian life coach, mom of two neurodivergent kiddos, and former fix-it-all parenting researcher.
For years, I chased every method that promised quick change. I believed if I just found the right consequence, parenting strategy, or routine, I could turn things around. But the more I tried to control, the more disconnected we became.
Everything changed when I stopped parenting from fear and started anchoring in faith, emotional regulation, and connection. I let go of the pressure to fix behavior and began trusting God’s process — not just for my child, but for myself, too.
Now I help moms like you shift from survival mode into a grounded, grace-led way of being that transforms everything — without changing your child.
If you’re ready to parent beyond meltdowns — with tools that are rooted in faith, emotional stability, and connection — this podcast is for you.
If you’re tired of parenting advice that shames you or strategies that backfire with your neurodivergent child… you’re not alone.
Whether you’re raising a strong-willed kiddo, navigating sensory challenges, or questioning the parenting approach you were raised with… welcome.
Grab your favorite beverage, take a deep breath, and let’s walk this road together — one calm, connected step at a time.
17 | How to Build Connection After Emotional Regulation Takes a Backseat to Meltdowns
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Ever replayed a moment after your child’s meltdown and thought, “Why did I do that again?”
Do you wish you could respond with peace instead of guilt after losing your cool?
Wonder how to rebuild connection when emotions run high for both you and your child?
Episode Highlights
In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most healing, hope-filled parts of parenting strong-willed and neurodivergent kids — repair.
No matter how much you work on emotional regulation, you’ll still have moments when things don’t go as planned. But peace doesn’t come from perfection — it comes from reconnection.
Amanda shares what real repair looks like after a rupture, how to restore emotional safety, and how to rebuild trust and connection with your child, even when meltdowns, defiance, or sensory overload happen.
You’ll learn how to:
Recognize what’s happening inside of you before trying to fix what’s happening around you.
Use the 3 R’s of Repair — Regulate, Reconnect, Reflect — to restore safety and model humility.
Respond to your child with compassion and confidence, even when they’re overwhelmed by ADHD, Autism (ASD), ODD, or PDA-related challenges.
Apply the Creation Cycle to renew your mind and partner with the Holy Spirit in the middle of hard moments.
Because here’s the truth, mama it’s not the meltdown that defines your relationship, but how you reconnect afterward.
Faith Anchor
“Because of the Lord’s great love, we are not consumed, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning.”— Lamentations 3:22–23
Just like God’s mercies are new every morning, you get to mirror that same grace with your child. Every repair moment is a chance to show them what unconditional love looks like connection after chaos, mercy after rupture.
Challenge of the Week
This week, when a hard moment happens:
1️⃣ Pause and regulate yourself first.2️⃣ Return to your child and name what happened gently.3️⃣ Remind them of your love, even if they’re not ready to receive it yet.
Then, reflect on what shifted - not what went wrong, but how choosing repair created safety for both of you.
Links & Resources
Join the Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/
Email: amandacalfeecoaching@gmail.com
Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas
Final Note
You’re not called to perfect parenting you’re called to faithful connection.Every time you choose repair over shame, you’re reflecting the Father’s heart and modeling the kind of grace that changes generations.
Do you feel like you’ve tried everything — consequences, parenting books, well meaning parenting advice, crying out to God — and still feel like you’re failing?
Are you walking on eggshells, never knowing what will trigger your child’s next meltdown or shutdown?
Have you felt dismissed or judged by church culture when your child didn’t behave the way they “should”?
Do you find yourself yelling, shutting down, or spiraling with guilt — praying that tomorrow will be different?
I’m so glad you’re here. This podcast will help you regulate your emotions, reconnect with your child, and rebuild your confidence as a Christian mom — without losing control, feeling ashamed, or fixing everything.
You’ll learn how to show up with peace and presence, so you can parent without guilt and finally feel like yourself again.
Hey, I’m Amanda — a certified Christian life coach, mom of two neurodivergent kiddos, and former fix-it-all parenting researcher.
For years, I chased every method that promised quick change. I believed if I just found the right consequence, parenting strategy, or routine, I could turn things around. But the more I tried to control, the more disconnected we became.
Everything changed when I stopped parenting from fear and started anchoring in faith, emotional regulation, and connection. I let go of the pressure to fix behavior and began trusting God’s process — not just for my child, but for myself, too.
Now I help moms like you shift from survival mode into a grounded, grace-led way of being that transforms everything — without changing your child.
If you’re ready to parent beyond meltdowns — with tools that are rooted in faith, emotional stability, and connection — this podcast is for you.
If you’re tired of parenting advice that shames you or strategies that backfire with your neurodivergent child… you’re not alone.
Whether you’re raising a strong-willed kiddo, navigating sensory challenges, or questioning the parenting approach you were raised with… welcome.
Grab your favorite beverage, take a deep breath, and let’s walk this road together — one calm, connected step at a time.
