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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
E223: Sex After Baby: Postpartum Sex, Intimacy & Desire
Pillow Talks
1 hour 5 minutes
4 days ago
E223: Sex After Baby: Postpartum Sex, Intimacy & Desire
The postpartum stage can be one of the hardest (and least talked about) seasons a couple will ever go through.
Your relationship changes. Your body changes. Your sex life changes.
And with all of that comes a swirl of feelings you might not have expected:
Resentment toward your partner
A crushing imbalance in the mental load
Feeling “touched out” 24/7
Nervousness (or fear) about having sex again
Worries about your body never feeling — or looking — the same
The awkward, elephant-in-the-room disconnection that can build over months
In this episode, we’re answering YOUR most personal, vulnerable questions about intimacy and connection after having kids — from being scared to get pregnant again, to changes in sensation, to finding your spark when you feel more like co-managers than romantic partners.
💛 Here’s what we’re covering:
Why being “cleared” for sex at 6 weeks doesn’t mean you have to be ready
How to break the silence when it’s been months (or longer) since you’ve been intimate
What to do if sex is painful after a tear or complicated delivery
Navigating body image, “too loose” worries, and changes in arousal triggers
How to reconnect when parenting has taken over every ounce of energy
Advice for partners who struggle to see their spouse sexually after birth
The most powerful way a partner can make a new mom feel truly seen, appreciated, and desired
Whether you’re weeks postpartum or years down the road, this conversation is a reminder that you’re not broken, you’re not alone, and you can find your way back to each other.
👩👩👧 Raise safe, smart & shame-free kids — and build a lifetime of trust so you’re the one they turn to.
From “Where do babies come from?” to “What does 69 mean?” 😳, Beyond the Birds & the Bees gives you the exact words to say in just 5–7 minutes per topic.
A complete digital parenting tool-kit. Think bite-sized, age-by-age audio guides and real-life scripts make even the trickiest conversations easier — so your kids learn about sex, consent, identity, and relationships from you, not TikTok.
Start today ➡️ https://vmtherapy.com/kids
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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
