Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
E233: Our Most Viral Tips (That Actually Changed People’s Sex Lives)
Pillow Talks
57 minutes
1 month ago
E233: Our Most Viral Tips (That Actually Changed People’s Sex Lives)
Whether you’ve been with us from the start or just found the podcast, this episode is basically a cheat sheet for a better sex life.
We pulled together the best of the best from hundreds of episodes — the tips, tools, and “aha” moments that have completely transformed our community’s sex lives. From the rule that saved our date nights to the mindset shifts that made intimacy feel easy again, we’re revisiting the advice that started it all.
💛 In this episode, you’ll hear:
Why the “F*** First Rule” might be the simplest way to rekindle connection.
What the Bristle Reaction really means and how to retrain your body to want touch again.
How to figure out your desire type (and why that might finally solve your mismatched libido issue).
The sneaky reason your sex life might feel “meh” and how to make it worth craving again.
Honorable mentions like the First Pancake Rule, scheduling sex, and other hot takes we might just turn into full episodes soon. 👀
If you’ve ever thought, “Where do I even start?” when it comes to improving your sex life… start here.
Go deeper 💞
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TIMESTAMPS
00:00 - Intro
04:05 F*ck First Rule
18:42 Bristle Reaction
26:03 We make out every night
32:42 Two Types of Desire
40:15 Emotional Physical Conundrum
50:00 Mushy Broccoli Problem
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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
