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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
E242: Penis Performance Problems: What’s Really Going On (And What To Do About It)
Pillow Talks
1 hour 4 minutes
2 days ago
E242: Penis Performance Problems: What’s Really Going On (And What To Do About It)
Penis performance issues are way more common than most people realize… and way more misunderstood than they need to be.
Today’s episode came straight from your questions — from trouble getting or keeping an erection, to finishing too quickly (or not at all), to the stress, shame, and “what does this mean about us?” thoughts that sneak in — we’re breaking it all down.
This episode is about understanding what’s happening, supporting your partner with compassion, and learning how to navigate these moments in a way that brings you closer — not further apart.
💛 In this episode, you’ll hear:
What commonly causes penis performance issues — and why it’s rarely just one thing.
Whether long-term porn use can affect erection quality or performance.
If masturbating “too often” can actually create problems.
How stress, anxiety, and aging can impact erections (and why it’s not a personal failure).
The connection between low testosterone and ED — and how to navigate it when a partner refuses treatment.
Whether circumcision has any link to penis performance issues.
How to bring up concerns about ED with a partner who doesn’t seem to recognize there’s an issue.
What these challenges mean emotionally — and what they don’t say about attraction, masculinity, or your relationship.
How to approach the conversation with compassion instead of pressure or panic.
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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
