If we are being completely honest, before we even understand the concept of love, most of us have probably learned how to protect ourselves. We’ve got rules, we’ve got exit strategies, we’ve got brick walls… each brick represents a different story from our past about how we were hurt, betrayed, or let down by someone we love … but do we still have room for intimacy? Eh, some of us do.

But if you’ve ever found yourself craving closeness while simultaneously self-sabotaging the hell out of it—this episode is for you.

Today, I’m joined by the brilliant Whitni Miller—sex educator, pleasure coach, and certified builder of emotional intimacy at BDE Moves. Together, we’re talking about what it means to move from protection to connection—and why sometimes, keeping the walls up isn’t keeping us safe… it’s keeping us stuck, lonely, and miserable.

You’ll learn how to build your emotional security bank, balance structure without slipping into stagnancy, and create deeper intimacy with yourself and your partner(s). 

So if you’re ready to soften your guard and build something real, then I hope you let your walls down just enough to get the most out of this episode.