In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with comedian Mark Bittlestone whose sharp wit, queer storytelling and emotional honesty have made him one of the most exciting voices in British comedy.
Mark opens up about growing up in 1990s Southwest London where homophobia was woven into the everyday language around him, even in an otherwise loving home. He reflects on spending a decade in the closet, the fear of being gay that shaped his early years and the moment he finally allowed himself to come out and breathe.
He also shares how devastating loss shaped him. Mark lost his mum shortly before his A levels and his dad shortly before his university finals. He talks about how grief transformed his understanding of life and how comedy became both a coping mechanism and a calling.
Ben and Mark dive into authenticity, dating, Grindr mishaps, the power of teasing straight men in comedy clubs, and the complicated pressure queer comedians feel to stop talking about their identity even when it is central to their story.
Mark also reflects on falling into comedy, getting fired from teaching, building confidence through social media, touring his show I Need a Straight Guy, and figuring out what comes next as he enters the next phase of his career.
Chapters
00:00 Queer Panic Rapid Fire Questions
04:16 Embarrassing Dating Stories
07:16 Proudest Career Moments
10:13 Childhood Influences on Identity
13:15 Awareness of Queerness and Family Dynamics
17:21 Coming Out and Authenticity
20:22 Navigating Loss and Grief
25:33 The Role of Comedy in Coping
27:47 Journey into Comedy
31:02 Queerness and Performance
32:29 Touring Experience and Audience Interaction
36:22 Using Platform for Advocacy
38:14 Future Aspirations and Reflection
39:11 Advice to Younger Self and LGBTQ+ Youth
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