in this episode, we are discussing the difference between being nice and being kind and how these two characteristics are often conflated in our modern society. the cooptation of niceties in order to leverage respectability or likeability has made it hard for many of those who aren't naturally charismatic to maintain healthy boundaries and fulfilling friendships outside of societal expectations, however, we are going to dive deeply into why charisma isn't all that it seems and why it is important to maintain your boundaries when looking to curate and attract deep, meaningful, and long-lasting connections. additionally, we are going to discuss why differentiating between being nice and being kind is so important for those who identify within the panafrikan diaspora as we are often surveilled through the lens of respectability and desirability politics which can force us to dishonor our boundaries, morals, standards, and authentic nature in many social settings. tune in for the first part of this important dialogue, you won't want to miss it!