Do you have to be healed before you date—or can love help you heal?In this episode of Real Love Scenario, we explore the complex relationship between healing, therapy, and dating. Do we need to “fix” ourselves first—or is growth something we can do together?
We unpack what healing actually means, how therapy can shift your dating life, and why self-awareness is one of the sexiest traits in any relationship.
🧠 The 4 H’s Framework:

• History – family patterns & past wounds
• Habits – conflict styles, emotional triggers
• Healing – therapy, community care, faith
• Help – access to care, finding culturally competent therapists

🟢 Green Flags: Accountability, growth without prompting, active self-reflection🔴 Red Flags: “That’s just how I am,” weaponizing therapy talk, no willingness to try
💡 Remember: You don’t need to be perfect—you just need to be committed to growth.
💬 Drop your thoughts in the comments:Can love really help you heal? Or do we need to heal alone first?
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