In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra will be taking you through how to take care of yourself and your relationship when your partner is struggling. Perhaps your partner is struggling with a job loss, a health diagnosis, a mental health challenge, the loss of a loved one, family drama, co-parenting with an ex, or something else entirely. Whatever it is, the theme is that there is some scenario that is taking up more of your partner’s bandwidth than usual, leaving less bandwidth for you and your relationship. In this first part, Dr. Alexandra is going to be contextualizing this scenario and providing lots of validation for the struggle that comes with having a struggling partner. She is also going to discuss factors that shape how your partner’s struggle impacts you. Hard things are just hard, yes, but the ways you’re getting activated in the wake of your partner’s struggle also have a lot to do with your specific wounds, as well as the role you played in your family of origin. The insights shared in this episode lay the groundwork for a two-part series designed to equip you with effective coping strategies to maintain your well-being while fostering intimacy and connection, even in challenging times. You’ll come away with this conversation with: A deeper understanding of what Dr. Alexandra calls the Recursive Relational Framework (RRF) and its impact on your relationship and the problem affecting the relationship. Research examples that demonstrate that your partner’s struggles affect you — and that how you respond can influence their outcome. Strategies for recognizing and managing your emotional triggers in response to a partner's distress. Practical tips for fostering personal growth while supporting a partner through their challenges. Resources worth mentioning from the episode: Get the FREE Family of Origin Roles Workbook: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/rolesworkbook/ Family of Origin Series Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/58WZg044gbmGsL6iPNxXJy?si=bajzkF-kRxG3WL76yJL-qw Take the Family of Origin Role Quiz: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/rolesquiz/ Managing Back to School Stress on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/backtoschool Articles mentioned in the episode: Impact of living with an adult with depressive symptoms among households in the United States: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0165032723015082#:~:text=Adults%20without%20depressive%20symptoms%20living%20in%20a%20depression%20household%20%28n,related%20visits%2C%20were%20not%20significant. The Impact of Bipolar Disorder on Couple Functioning: Implications for Care and Treatment. A Systematic Review: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8400362/ Review and Meta-analysis of Couple-Oriented Interventions for Chronic Illness: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8400362/ Family Function Impacts Relapse Tendency in Substance Use Disorder: Mediated Through Self-Esteem and Resilience: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8882822/#:~:text=Specifically%2C%20the%20family%20function%20is,love%20and%20identification%20%2823%29. Family members’ experiences of ‘living well’ with a family member with depression: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1322769624000040?dgcid=rss_sd_all#bbib1 Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530 Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra’s newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/