We have learned to love from our caregivers, from people that were close to us when we were babies. Without conscious purpose to change this we will maintain the same style maybe for the rest of our life. In some cases, can be influenced by other people or by impactful events.

Either we want too much love (anxious preoccupied style) either we want to little (avoidant style) or we are confused (fearful avoidant style) we should all aim for a balance (secure style).

By paying attention to how we love we can understand the patterns that we are following, and we can adjust the outcome.

To find out your style, here is a test: https://dianepooleheller.com/attachment-test/

The book that changed our perspective: https://books.google.co.uk/books?id=_O0oDwAAQBAJ&dq=attachment+amir+levine&hl=en&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwiqr_6VzbjrAhXMYMAKHfb3AzMQ6AEwAHoECAEQAg

More about attachment: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2s9ACDMcpjA

Please share your experience and your comments below.

Take care,

A&M

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