Dating is hard but so do relationships.
The most important moment in a relationship starts with choosing your partner. We spend so much time choosing our career, our universities, even a car but when it comes to partners, we go blindly, and we date the first person that swipes right on dating apps. Some people like to think that love should be natural and spontaneous, destiny or God’s will, but these are social scripts. What we consider natural is also socially constructed- we learn from society what we need to do: fall in love by chance, get engaged, get married and live happily ever after.
It looks like a shopping list, right? So just a quick reminder life may surprise you and will unfold differently. There is no timeline for us, everyone’s journey is very individual.
The first step in dating?
KNOW YOURSELF – take a pen and paper and write down your needs and your values.
Think of past relationships.
What went wrong?
Why?
How did you react?
What did you appreciate and what not?
Think of happy couples around you.
What do you like about them?
What would you like to have that they have?
From your list think of what is the top priority for you- 3-5 values that you are strict about it. These would be your breaking deals, points that you are not willing to compromise.
In our relationships, we had clashing values on money and how we spend them, closeness, and common hobbies.
Conclusion, choose a partner that:
1) understand your needs and accepts who you are
2) is interested in you as a person and things that you do
3) supports you physically and emotionally
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Take care,
A&M
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