Today we will talk about red flags in a relationship. In the last episode, we discussed communicating your needs. Check that episode too.

We will continue on the theme of needs, and situations when are not meet:

Confusing situations:

• a healthy relationship is when you know where you are standing you introduce each other to your friends, family, you call it a relationship -Full integration
  
• Not healthy you do not put labels, you are not sure if it is a relationship (situationship), you hide your relationship, you do not talk about it, it is all grey area and confusing
  

Invalidating your feelings:

• a healthy relationship: is when your partner makes your wellbeing or you overall their priority, they really care about how you feel and they want to make you happy
  
• Not healthy: they really not care about how you feel and they do not feel responsible for their action  (ex: i am not responsible for what you understand i am responsible for what i say); they disappear for days and they are always right.  You are the one who comes with a white flag of peace
  

They don’t facture you in:

• a healthy relationship is when your opinion matters, your wishes,  desires, plans too.
  
• Not healthy you do not matter, what you wish is it not taken into account (ex moving countries, career); selfish behavior - it is all about me, I need you when I need you, I am busy when you need me.
  

Invalidating your needs

• a healthy relationship is when your partner is really interested in meeting your needs- it’s part of giving love and it feels as good as receiving love. They just honestly want to see you happy, simple.
  
• Not healthy when your needs are too much and they label you as needy (ex. If you want closeness you are too needy, high sex drive, dependent, suffocating)
  

Belittle you and putting you down

• a healthy relationship is when your partner cares about you and wants the best for you, they help you to grow and strive.
  
• Not healthy they make fun of you and push you down so they can feel above (ex they make fun of you in front of their friends, they share intimate details just to laugh, they tell you that you cannot do it and they do not help you in any way, they get jealous when you manage to do something)
  

This is the end of part 1 in the next episode we will continue with the list.