What if the challenging behavior you're seeing isn't something to fix, but something to understand?
In this episode, I'm sharing the framework that completely changed how I parent and coach families - and it has nothing to do with new strategies or discipline techniques.
When managing behavior isn't working, it's usually because we're asking the wrong question. Instead of "What do I DO?" we need to ask "What do I SEE?"
I'll walk you through the three essential lenses for seeing your child:
Through real coaching stories (including one about sibling meanness that shifted in just two weeks), you'll learn how changing what you see naturally changes how you respond - without trying harder or doing more.
This episode is for you if:
Your child isn't broken. They're not bad. They're just trying to tell you something - and this episode will help you understand what that is.
Key Takeaways:
✨ The secret to parenting isn't in what you DO, it's in how you SEE your child
✨ Misbehavior is often just immature pursuit of connection
✨ Defended hearts can't grow - children need to feel vulnerable feelings
✨ You can't discipline someone into developmental maturity
✨ One shift in seeing can create more change than a hundred strategies
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Action Step:
Choose ONE challenging behavior your child is showing right now. Look at it through all three lenses (attachment, vulnerability, maturation) and notice how your response naturally shifts when you see the need underneath the behavior.
If this episode resonated with you, please share it with another parent who needs to hear that their child isn't broken. We're all in this together.
Rooted in Relationship: When Managing Behavior Isn't Working - helping parents see their children through the lenses of attachment, vulnerability, and maturation.