Namaste, Welcome to SAM-VAD (Together In Conversation). Last week, I shared an excerpt titled – ‘Culture of Argument’ from the book titled ‘The Argument Culture’ by Deborah Tannen. In this episode we drew attention to the fact as to what argument culture urges us to do and that conflict can’t be avoided but surely can be resolved in constructive ways. Now, SAM-VAD (Together In Conversation) to the ones paying heed, is where we try to draw your attention to things that matter and the importance of your attention, because, ‘Our life’s experience would ultimately amount to whatever we had paid attention to’.



Attention: is as fundamental as food; and we go blundering about, seeking ways to assuage the craving, instead of learning how to provide ourselves with what we need, sensibly and calmly. Once our attention is drawn to the mechanism of why and what we give attention to, it is as if a veil has been stripped off and we become freer in our action and choices. And that is our endavour.



This week I bring to your attention an excerpt titled – ‘Do Arguments Resolve Anything’ from the book titled ‘The Argument Culture’ by Deborah Tannen, a distinguished university professor in the Linguistics Department at Georgetown University and author of many books and articles about how the language of everyday conversation affects relationships.



This book is about a pervasive warlike atmosphere that makes us approach public dialogue, and just about anything we need to accomplish, as if it were a fight. It gives us new ways of resolving our differences and uncovering the honest truth.



Do Arguments Resolve Anything



With most arguments, little is resolved, worked out, or achieved when two people get angrier and less rational by the minute. When you’re having an argument with someone, you’re usually not trying to understand what the other person is saying, or what their experience leads them to say it. Instead, you’re readying your response: listening for weaknesses in logic to leap on, points you can distort to make the other person look bad and yourself look good.



Excerpt from ‘The Argument Culture’ by Deborah Tannen.



I am sure that you will enjoy reading this book thought provoking, to read brief overview you can click on the following link and subsequently buy your copy too:



https://www.deborahtannen.com/the-argument-culture



Enjoy reading it with your family, friends and near and dear one’s.



Namaste!
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