Welcome to Self Belief Unsquashed, the podcast that takes you on a liberating journey to bring your whole self to the surface. Whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert—let’s face it, you’re human—this is your space to untangle the messy knots of self-doubt and squash the myths that keep you small.
Hosted by Trisha Lewis, author of ’The Mystery of the Squashed Self’ and TEDx speaker, this podcast dives headfirst into the everyday barriers that hold us back: the sneaky grip of comparisonitis, the weight of people-pleasing, the fear of rejection, and the baggage of past experiences. With warmth, wit, and wisdom drawn from her own journey, Trisha offers bite-sized episodes filled with thought-provoking reframes, actionable challenges, and raw honesty.
No fluff, no filters—just real talk about what it takes to show up as your true self and feel good about it. Ready to bash down the barriers and build unstoppable self-belief? Tune in and let’s get unsquashed.
Mix of Trisha Lewis solo short episodes and Trisha with guests in longer conversations.
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Welcome to Self Belief Unsquashed, the podcast that takes you on a liberating journey to bring your whole self to the surface. Whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert—let’s face it, you’re human—this is your space to untangle the messy knots of self-doubt and squash the myths that keep you small.
Hosted by Trisha Lewis, author of ’The Mystery of the Squashed Self’ and TEDx speaker, this podcast dives headfirst into the everyday barriers that hold us back: the sneaky grip of comparisonitis, the weight of people-pleasing, the fear of rejection, and the baggage of past experiences. With warmth, wit, and wisdom drawn from her own journey, Trisha offers bite-sized episodes filled with thought-provoking reframes, actionable challenges, and raw honesty.
No fluff, no filters—just real talk about what it takes to show up as your true self and feel good about it. Ready to bash down the barriers and build unstoppable self-belief? Tune in and let’s get unsquashed.
Mix of Trisha Lewis solo short episodes and Trisha with guests in longer conversations.
185. People Pleasing Makes You Explode. The Primal Pain of Rejection
Self Belief Unsquashed
18 minutes
7 months ago
185. People Pleasing Makes You Explode. The Primal Pain of Rejection
In this episode, I'm turning detective on a fresh perspective on people pleasing and its surprising knock-on effects. You might know that constantly trying to please others stems from a fear of rejection, which, incredibly, activates the same parts of your brain as physical pain. But have you considered how this habit can lead to feeling silently annoyed, then angry, and ultimately to losing your temper out of the frustration of not being your full authentic self?
Join me as I explore this cycle, share insights from my book (you get a whole chapter) "The Mystery of the Squashed Self", and offer some initial thoughts on how to worry less about being liked. Some good reframes to try!
I reference loads of good books for you to explore more!
Not Nice - Dr Aziz Gazipura
The Courage to be Disliked - Kishimi and Koga
Myth of the Nice Girl - Fran Hauser
Go For No - Andrea Waltz and Richard Fenton
Insight - Tasha Eurich
The Mystery of the Squashed Self - Trisha Lewis
I also refer to Michael Port and Aesop!
Want to explore 'people pleasing' a little more?
Head to episodes: 182 and 167
Links to more unsquashing resources - including some tests you can have a bit of fun with - head to my resources page at trishalewis.com
Self Belief Unsquashed
Welcome to Self Belief Unsquashed, the podcast that takes you on a liberating journey to bring your whole self to the surface. Whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert—let’s face it, you’re human—this is your space to untangle the messy knots of self-doubt and squash the myths that keep you small.
Hosted by Trisha Lewis, author of ’The Mystery of the Squashed Self’ and TEDx speaker, this podcast dives headfirst into the everyday barriers that hold us back: the sneaky grip of comparisonitis, the weight of people-pleasing, the fear of rejection, and the baggage of past experiences. With warmth, wit, and wisdom drawn from her own journey, Trisha offers bite-sized episodes filled with thought-provoking reframes, actionable challenges, and raw honesty.
No fluff, no filters—just real talk about what it takes to show up as your true self and feel good about it. Ready to bash down the barriers and build unstoppable self-belief? Tune in and let’s get unsquashed.
Mix of Trisha Lewis solo short episodes and Trisha with guests in longer conversations.
