It’s November - or as we’re calling it, No-vember: the month we stop overcommitting, overfunctioning, and saying yes when every fibre of our being is screaming no. We’ve spent decades saying yes - to work projects, school fairs, dinners we didn’t want to attend, and “quick favours” that were anything but. Our “yes” muscles are officially burnt out. This week, we’re discussing how to say a guilt free no, diving into why saying no is an act of emotional self-defence and chatting about the science behind why it’s harder for women, and how protecting your time protects your mental health. In this episode we discuss:  The real benefits of saying no - from better relationships to stronger self-trust. Our best practical tips and “No Scripts” for polite but firm refusals. How to swap FOMO for JOMO (the Joy of Missing Out). The 5 self-care steps to saying no with kindness and confidence. Get 20% off at LondonNootropics.com with the code SELFCARE If you liked this episode and want to be part of the club, come follow us on all our socials:  To Listen To 40ISH - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/40ish/id1757876983 To order our book “HAVE YOU TRIED THIS?” click here - Paperback out now!  https://www.amazon.co.uk/Have-You-Tried-This-Only/dp/1801293139/ref=sr_1_2?crid=1O7EA4ZF1O5CS&keywords=have+you+tried+this&qid=1699449028&sprefix=have+you+tried+%2Caps%2C125&sr=8-2 For Our Exclusive Merch - https://self-care-club.myspreadshop.co.uk/ Join Our Private Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1115099072702743/?ref=share_group_link Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/selfcareclubpod/ YouTube https://youtube.com/c/SelfCareClub TikTok https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMLnXyS1S/ Email hello@theselfcareclub.co.uk  Website www.theselfcareclub.co.uk Studio production by @launchpodstudios Music by purpleplanet. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices