Sextras is a podcast about sex, dating, relationships and all the extras. Honey Jane Wyatt paints a candid picture of relationships and dating in your 20s, from sharing funny stories, to sex tips, to hard life lessons learnt (and learning). Typical episodes go from heavy discussions about surveillance culture and dating, to why it's so hard to orgasm during sex and offering a word of advice for cringe sex stories from their listeners. Listen in to hear Honey share all the details of her and her listeners' sex and love lives, and to maybe learn something from our expert guests along the way. To get involved, subscribe to Sextras on Substack follow us on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook, email us (sextraspodcast@gmail.com) or submit anonymous confessions to www.sextrasworld.com.
Hosted by Honey Jane Wyatt
Original music by Sacha Puttnam
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Sextras is a podcast about sex, dating, relationships and all the extras. Honey Jane Wyatt paints a candid picture of relationships and dating in your 20s, from sharing funny stories, to sex tips, to hard life lessons learnt (and learning). Typical episodes go from heavy discussions about surveillance culture and dating, to why it's so hard to orgasm during sex and offering a word of advice for cringe sex stories from their listeners. Listen in to hear Honey share all the details of her and her listeners' sex and love lives, and to maybe learn something from our expert guests along the way. To get involved, subscribe to Sextras on Substack follow us on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook, email us (sextraspodcast@gmail.com) or submit anonymous confessions to www.sextrasworld.com.
Hosted by Honey Jane Wyatt
Original music by Sacha Puttnam
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
You can run (in circles) but you can’t hide from the panopticon, so of course we had to make our first episode of season four all about how surveillance culture plays out in relationships and sex.
If you’ve not heard of the extremely esoteric (joking!) philosopher Foucault, don’t worry – we start the episode explaining exactly what panopticon theory is and why you should care, before diving into how we’re policing each other in every aspect of our relationships.
You’ll be thankful to hear it’s not all theory, because we look at examples of panopticism in pop culture, like boyfriends being embarrassing and the Coldplay kiss cam (RIP that CEO) and discuss how this behaviour is slipping into our real lives. From telling our friends their boyfriends suck in group chats, to waiting for them to slip up on social media or IRL so we can cut them off, we’re all becoming cops in our relationships.
While some kind of accountability is always needed, especially when it comes to casual dating, we talk about why this rise in surveillance is making us change our own behaviour and how it’s only making things worse for minorities in particular (classic!).
We hope you enjoy the episode. We’ll be back with two free episodes each month, but if you want to hear more you can subscribe to us over on Substack @sextras for exclusive advice episodes and access to exclusive features and personal essays all about sex and dating.
You can also find us on Instagram and TikTok @sextrasworld, or get in touch with your own experiences or what you want to hear at sextraspodcast@gmail.com. We’ll see you in a couple of weeks with the first guest episode of the season and we can’t wait… dare we say we’ve missed you?!
Hosted by Honey Jane Wyatt and guest hosted by Daniella Parete Clarke.
Music by Sacha Puttnam.
Skip to:
2m10: Intro
8m22: The panopticon of dating
24m37: Gen Z is afraid of being cringe
30:20: Helicopter parenting and friend-policing
45m: West Elm Caleb and the Coldplay Kiss
59m24: How surveillance culture impacts queer relationships
1h10m: West End Girl, and how the panopticon upholds systems of power
1m19: What to look out for this season (and subscribe to the Substack pretty please!)
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