Trust Yourself: How to Build Self-Trust and Heal What’s Underneath with Emily Romero
What if the key to drinking less, feeling more grounded, and finally breaking free from self-sabotage wasn’t more willpower — but more self-trust?
In this deeply powerful episode of ShameOver, I sit down with author and somatic trauma therapist Emily Romero to explore the real reason so many women feel stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected from themselves.
We unpack Emily’s groundbreaking Self-Trust Model — built on 4 core principles: 👉 Radical honesty 👉 Keeping promises to yourself 👉 Nervous system regulation 👉 Deep self-knowing
If you’ve ever felt like you know what to do but still don’t follow through... if you use alcohol (or anything else) to avoid the pressure, perfectionism, or pain... this one’s for you.
We talk nervous system health, trauma, healing childhood wounds, and how to model something better for the next generation — without the shame.
✨ Whether you're on a healing journey, rethinking your relationship with alcohol, or just trying to stop abandoning yourself — this convo is your permission slip to rebuild trust, one honest moment at a time.
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Emily Romero is a long time trauma therapist turned author and creator of The Self-Trust Model™. She began her career as a therapist in 2010 and founded her private practice, Curiosity Rising, in 2019. With a passion for holistic and integrative approaches, she specialized in working with complex trauma and anxiety through the lens of somatics, parts work, and psychedelic therapy.
She designed The Self-Trust Model™ to empower women to overcome self-doubt, overthinking, and insecurity so they can feel confident chasing their big dreams. She now leads training and certification programs for those interested in applying the model to their practices.
She’s the host of The Self-Trust Podcast and the author of two books, including her newest release: You Can Trust Yourself.
Links:
You Can Trust Yourself book — https://amzn.to/4iIWaXz
The Self-Trust Podcast — available on all podcast platforms
https://curiosityrising.substack.com/podcast
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About the Show: The ShameOver Podcast is your go-to space for drinking less without quitting entirely, navigating big feelings, and learning to thrive as a deeply feeling, highly sensitive woman. Hosted by Erica Mallery, a coach who’s been there and gets it—this show helps you ditch the guilt and shame, trust yourself again, and find freedom in moderation.
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00:00 Welcome and Introduction 00:03 Emily Romero's Journey and Book Overview 01:08 The Core of Self-Trust 02:54 Developing Self-Trust: Principles and Practices 10:35 Understanding and Addressing Trauma 18:42 The Role of Shame and Compassion 25:48 The Ripple Effect of Compassion 26:16 Learning as Adults What We Missed as Children 27:00 Navigating Parenting and Personal Wounds 27:54 Understanding Highly Sensitive Individuals 28:50 The Importance of Nervous System Regulation 34:00 The Self-Trust Compass: An Overview 38:55 Practical Tips for Self-Trust and Regulation 46:29 The Journey of Self-Trust and Consistency 48:52 Conclusion and Final Thoughts