In this episode, Safiya and I unpack one of the most exhausting and misunderstood patterns so many of us carry: the deep, subconscious pull to keep everyone else comfortable, even when it costs us our own peace.
We explore how people-pleasing isn’t really about being nice, it’s about safety. When your nervous system learns that harmony equals survival, saying “yes” becomes a reflex, not a choice.
Together, we talk about the childhood experiences, family dynamics, and cultural conditioning that train us to equate approval with worth and rejection with danger. We also explore how this pattern becomes part of our identity, the helper, the fixer, the easygoing one, and what it actually looks like to heal without swinging to the other extreme of being detached or cold.
From the physical exhaustion that comes from managing everyone’s emotions, to the quiet resentment that builds when you abandon your own needs, this conversation will help you understand why people-pleasing runs so deep, and how to start finding safety in simply being yourself.
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