Getting back in the saddle? I love that for you. But here’s the truth: staying on track takes more than motivation. If you’ve been craving a fresh start but don't know where to start, this episode is for you. We’re breaking down 8 of the most common ways people sabotage their own progress—from relying too much on discipline to using self-hate as fuel. Whether you have a big dream or just want to get unstuck, you deserve to enter your next chapter with eyes wide open. Let’s talk about the philosophy and psychology of making a comeback stick.
EPISODE OUTLINE
00:00 Intro
02:40 Eight ways to sabotage a comeback
03:22 1. Believing you're behind
06:19 2. Being apologetic about what you want
07:18 You hold yourself back when you move in silence
08:41 You're being judgmental when you assume people are judging you
10:28 3. Underestimating the subconscious mind
10:45 The neuroscience of manifestation
12:46 Self-deprecation is manifesting too
14:37 4. Focusing only on your how & not your why
14:47 Nietzsche's will to power
15:20 Chasing superficial whys
17:14 5. Underestimating the power of small changes
19:38 Results are a lagging measure of effort (James Clear)
21:30 6. Focusing on what you can't control
21:55 Amor Fati: loving your fate (Nietzsche)
23:22 PS: My book MAKE BELIEVE is out now
24:05 Stop feeling bad for yourself for not figuring it out sooner
25:58 7. Waiting until you're ready to start
26:30 Hiding in the planning phase
26:51 The confidence-competence loop
27:50 8. Using self-hate as fuel
29:56 Lightning round recap
30:56 Give yourself some credit
EPISODE LINKS
Michigan State Study on accountability
Study using fMRI showing impact of visualization on motor cortex
The Gay Science by Friedrich Nietzsche
MY LINKS
• MAKE BELIEVE is out everywhere now
• Get a signed copy of MAKE BELIEVE from Blue Willow Bookshop
• Join me in Bali June 1-7!
• Find me @thedailyvictorian on Instagram
