Are you parenting like a team or winging it alone in the same house? We break down how to stay aligned without a running commentary. We share why our defaults differ, how trauma feeds the “fun parent” role, and why rules keep peace. We talk fizzy drinks, screens, reading, and how to say no with reasons so kids learn, not resent. We also answer a listener who feels like a single mum inside a marriage, and we give a practical plan to fix it. You will hear:• United front vs mixed messages, and how kids exploit gaps• Defaults: one says yes, the other says no, and how to meet in the middle• House rules that stick, written and signed• Saying no with reasons, building resilience for the real world• Grandparents, culture, and changing standards• Trauma, overcompensating, and becoming the “fun” parent• Reading before screens, water before sugar, balance over vibes• Accountability without shaming your partner• How to ask friends and elders for help without oversharing Watch, comment, and drop your questions for our Q&A segment at the end of each show.