Have you ever wondered why the same fights keep showing up in your relationships, even when you swear you’ll never repeat the pattern?
You’re not broken, you’re human. And your nervous system is simply replaying old attachment strategies that once kept you safe.
I’m Tim Ervin, a therapist, coach, Navy veteran, and author of The Attachment Trap. For over 30 years, I’ve helped people untangle the survival patterns that block love, trust, and connection. On this podcast, I blend humor, neuroscience, and real-life stories to show you how healing occurs not just in your mind, but also in your body and subconscious mind.
Season 1 was about awareness: naming the patterns and understanding why you do what you do. Season 2 is about transformation: using tools like EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and hypnotherapy, actually, to shift those patterns so that love feels safe again.
Expect to hear pop-culture examples—from Ross and Rachel’s anxious-avoidant loop in Friends, to Jim and Pam’s tender missteps in The Office, to the lovable chaos of Modern Family. These aren’t just sitcom storylines; they’re mirrors of the attachment patterns that shape our lives.
Along the way, you’ll learn:
Why talk therapy alone sometimes isn’t enough to change automatic reactions.
How EMDR helps your brain finally reprocess old memories so they stop hijacking you in the present.
How hypnotherapy opens the door for new, healthier beliefs to take root at the subconscious level.
How combining the two can help you move from survival mode into real capacity for love.
You’ll also receive guided practices, such as a gentle EMDR-inspired meditation in Episode 2, that allow you to experience healing tools firsthand.
If you’ve ever thought, “I understand why I do this, but I still can’t stop,” this podcast is for you. It’s time to stop blaming yourself, start rewiring old survival strategies, and finally build the kind of connection you’ve been craving.
Because you’re not broken, you’re becoming.