Heather Boyd, occupational therapist and mom of 3, shares ways that separation-based advice backfires and what to do instead.
When parents get advice that involves separation without any focus on attachment, it can block a parent's ability to help their children regulate. Whether it’s daytime meltdowns or bedtime shenanigans, separation can feel very alarming.
Listen to this episode for examples of bad separation-based advice that Heather wishes she’d ignored early on in parenting, and what to do instead.
With attachment-based perspectives and tools, as well as self-regulation tools for parents, the focus shifts to connection and co-regulation.
And with connection and co-regulation, the alarm of separation can soften.
Mentioned in this episode:
Gordon Neufeld: “Speak but not too much. Be close but not too close” www.neufeldinstitute.com
Kim Barthell: Be a behaviorual detective. www.kimbarthel.ca
Parent Self-Care Toolkit https://heatherboyd.vipmembervault.com/products/units/view/1239883/?lesson=1601156
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