EP 18: V.I.T.A.L Office Hours Q & A #4C | How to Stop "Leaking" Energy & Say No Without Guilt

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The Brick by Brick Broadcast with Olatunde Akinwunmi

Olatunde Akinwunmi

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EP 18: V.I.T.A.L Office Hours Q & A #4C | How to Stop "Leaking" Energy & Say No Without Guilt

The Brick by Brick Broadcast with Olatunde Akinwunmi

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2 weeks ago

EP 18: V.I.T.A.L Office Hours Q & A #4C | How to Stop "Leaking" Energy & Say No Without Guilt

Do you feel guilty every time you say "No"?You are helpful, kind, and reliable. But beneath that kindness, you are likely exhausted. You say "Yes" to keep the peace, but every yes that betrays your priorities is actually a quiet "No" to your own purpose.In this final episode of our V.I.T.A.L Office Hours series, we are tackling the psychology of Boundaries and the personality trait of "High Agreeableness."This is Part 3 of our 3-Part Series: "The Architecture of Discipline." We have covered Focus (Part 1) and Alignment (Part 2). Now, we secure your energy with Boundaries. IN THIS SERIES:Part 1: The Focus Issue – Why you start but never finish.Part 2: The Alignment Issue – Finding your "Crux Goal."Part 3: The Boundary Issue (Current Video) – Protecting your energy without losing your identity.IN PART 3, YOU WILL LEARN:The difference between "Niceness" (keeping false peace) and "Goodness" (aligning with truth).The "Leaking Cup" Metaphor: Why you feel empty even though you are always "pouring" into others.Why your brain treats "conflict" as "danger"—and how to rewire that fear response.The 3 R's Framework: A simple script to say No with kindness and authority.Why boundaries don’t make you less available; they make you more valuable.Work with Me: If you are ready to build a life that fits your wiring—without the burnout—I invite you to apply for my Game Plan Consultation. It is a 90-minute deep dive to map out your direction, goals, and boundaries. 👉 Apply here: https://bit.ly/thegameplanconsultationThank you for watching the "Architecture of Discipline" series. Keep building with focus, alignment, and boundaries.Chapters00:02 - The "Nice Guy" Trap 00:29 - The Psychology of Agreeableness 00:58 - Niceness vs. Goodness02:11 - The "Leaking Cup" Metaphor03:01 - Jesus and Boundaries 03:44 - The "Compassionate No" Case Study 04:28 - The 2 Kinds of Pain04:58 - The 3 R’s Framework (Reflect, Rephrase, Reinforce) 06:12 - The Assignment: Rewiring Your Courage #Boundaries #SayNo #PeoplePleasing #MentalHealth #HighPerformance #VITALOfficeHours #BrickByBrick #Agreeableness #SelfCare #Leadership