The Desire Gap: Real Solutions for Couples with Mismatched Sex Drives
Laura Jurgens, Ph.D.
95 episodes
2 days ago
You think having sex when you don't really want to will keep your partner happy. But obligation sex actually destroys desire—and doesn't help either of you in the long run. Research shows that when you cross your own boundaries repeatedly this way, your desire drops even further. Resentment builds. And your partner can wind up feeling even more unwanted. I break down what actually happens with obligation sex, why it doesn't help either partner, and how to choose a different option that honors...
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You think having sex when you don't really want to will keep your partner happy. But obligation sex actually destroys desire—and doesn't help either of you in the long run. Research shows that when you cross your own boundaries repeatedly this way, your desire drops even further. Resentment builds. And your partner can wind up feeling even more unwanted. I break down what actually happens with obligation sex, why it doesn't help either partner, and how to choose a different option that honors...
ADHD & Desire Gaps, Part 1: High libido, low libido, or sometimes both
The Desire Gap: Real Solutions for Couples with Mismatched Sex Drives
33 minutes
2 weeks ago
ADHD & Desire Gaps, Part 1: High libido, low libido, or sometimes both
If you have ADHD and your sex life feels challenging, you're not broken - your brain just works differently. Maybe you have super high libido and use sex or masturbation to feel at home in your body. Or maybe your libido is low because sex hasn't been working for your body or you're stuck in your head and you don't know why or how to fix it. Or maybe you're both, depending on the day. In this episode, we unpack why ADHD creates these extremes - from sex as self-medication to getting stuck in ...
The Desire Gap: Real Solutions for Couples with Mismatched Sex Drives
You think having sex when you don't really want to will keep your partner happy. But obligation sex actually destroys desire—and doesn't help either of you in the long run. Research shows that when you cross your own boundaries repeatedly this way, your desire drops even further. Resentment builds. And your partner can wind up feeling even more unwanted. I break down what actually happens with obligation sex, why it doesn't help either partner, and how to choose a different option that honors...
