Traver Boehm is the author of the books Today I Rise, Man Uncivilized and 28 Days In Darkness. He’s a two-time TEDx speaker, men’s coach, and the founder of the Uncivilized Men’s Movement. He’s helped men all over the world to become Uncivilized as they wake up to the power of their hearts, the brilliance of their bodies, and the wisdom of their souls so they can blaze their own path by uniquely blending both the primal and the divine within them.Most recently, Traver completed an extraordinary 49-day dark retreat and released his latest book chronicling his first such journey, 28 Days In Darkness.He is dedicated to doing his part to help end the suffering in men, and the suffering caused by men, by guiding them through their own journey into an actualized version of masculinity.In this powerful conversation, Traver Boehm, founder of Man Uncivilized and author of 28 Days in Darkness, joins me to explore the crisis and rebirth of modern masculinity. We talk about shadow work, men’s mental health, trauma healing, emotional intelligence, nervous-system regulation, and the midlife search for purpose.Traver shares what he learned from spending 49 days in total darkness—and why the greatest challenge a man can face isn’t an Ironman race or a business empire, but the courage to meet himself. Together, we unpack the confusion between men and women in the post-MeToo era, the cost of numbing through achievement, and how reconnecting to feeling, presence, and authenticity brings life back into full color.If you’ve ever wondered why success feels empty, why relationships feel like war zones, or why modern men feel lost, this episode is your invitation to return home to yourself.Chapters: 00:00 The State of Masculinity and Femininity07:07 The Impact of COVID and Social Movements13:03 Navigating Relationships in a Changing World18:51 Understanding Male Desire and Safety24:33 The Role of Men in Modern Society29:48 Lessons on Safety and Vulnerability32:38 Understanding Sexual Needs and Desires37:03 The Impact of Masculinity on Relationships41:15 The Call to Action for Men46:35 The Importance of Being Known53:06 Facing Fear and Embracing Darkness56:59 Reliving Trauma: The Somatic Experience58:09 The Dark Retreat: Confronting Inner Demons01:02:50 The Power of Darkness: Insights and Resilience01:08:20 The Journey Within: Discovering the Soul01:14:00 The Illusion of Significance: Embracing Insignificance01:18:13 Man Uncivilized: Building Community and ConnectionGuest Resources:https://www.manuncivilized.com/pressInstagram - traverboehmYoutube -  @TraverBoehm  The UNcivilized Podcast - https://www.manuncivilized.com/blog/Find me on YouTube @abbyhavermann👉🏽 Inspire and transform your group by hiring me to speak: https://www.abbyhavermann.com/speaking👉 Get my free course: Stop Setting Boundaries (under an hour!): https://www.abbyhavermann.com/stop-setting-boundaries