December feels like too much when you’re the one holding everything, and this episode gives you a grounded way to release that pressure without losing control.
Women lawyers carry an invisible load this month, and it shows up in your body long before it appears on your calendar. This episode names the real source of that pressure and shows you how to step out of the role you never chose.
Inside December, you’re not only juggling tasks. You’re tracking tension, scanning for reactions, and staying alert for anything that might need you. That pattern feels automatic because your brain learned to treat responsibility as safety. It kept you steady at work, and it followed you home.
In this episode, you’ll hear why December activates old habits of overfunctioning, how emotional scanning drains your energy, and why doing less triggers fear instead of relief. You’ll learn how to loosen the belief that everything depends on you, and how to set something down without creating conflict.
We talk through:
• the nervous system patterns that make December feel urgent
• how women lawyers become the default emotional anchors
• why doing less feels unsafe even when you need it
• small shifts that reduce pressure without lowering standards
• how to stop letting December shape your mood and your identity
You’ll walk away with language for a pattern you’ve carried for years and a way to interrupt it before it shapes your month. The goal is not to fix December. The goal is to move through it without disappearing into responsibility.
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Full Show Notes and Transcript:
032 When December Feels Like Too Much: How to Stop Holding Everything
https://www.heathermillscoaching.com/blog/032-when-december-feels-like-too-much