So many of us feel blindsided by how much motherhood changes our relationships. Nobody warns you how having a baby can completely rewrite the dynamics between you and your partner...the exhaustion, the resentment, the unspoken mental load.
In this episode, Nat reads two Reddit posts from mums whose marriages started crumbling after having kids and reflects on why it really happens. From the invisible load to unmet needs, shifting identities, and structural cracks that existed long before the baby, this one’s a deep, honest look at why modern motherhood leaves so many couples struggling to stay connected.
If you’ve ever wondered, “Is it just us?” — you’re not alone.
In this episode:
The difference between structural vs. circumstantial relationship strain
Why unmet needs (sleep, rest, connection) turn into resentment
How the mental load creeps in and erodes partnership
When to question if staying together is helping or harming
Why separation isn’t failure, and what rebuilding support looks like
Listen if you’re:
Feeling unseen or unsupported in your relationship
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