I don’t think most self-help is wrong. I DO think a lot of it is beige. In this episode, I talk about why so much well-intended personal growth advice never landed for me. Not because the tools were bad. Not because I didn’t try hard enough. But because the rooms they lived in never felt safe for my nervous system, my personality, or my way of being alive. I explain what “beige self-help” actually looks like. The calm voices. The perfect routines. The unspoken assumption that everyone has stable energy, neutral emotions, and a nervous system that never spikes or freezes. I share a powerful realization sparked by a student inside Positive Pulse. It isn’t always the tools that fail us. Sometimes it’s the container. And when we don’t feel reflected, we don’t feel safe enough to practice, integrate, or trust ourselves. This episode is for anyone who has ever thought: “Why does this work for everyone else but not me?” “Why do I feel like I have to quiet myself down to belong?” “What if I’m not broken… I’m just in the wrong room?” Your happiness doesn’t have to get quieter. It might just need a space that fits you. Uncustomary.org/PP