In this episode of The Mettā Interview, host Anne V Mühlethaler welcomes Francesca Hogi, an acclaimed love educator, coach, and author who has transformed countless lives through her unique approach to modern romance and relationships.
Twelve years ago, Francesca made a bold pivot from a successful career as a corporate lawyer to pursue her true calling in love education and matchmaking. Today, she's a sought-after coach, TED speaker, bestselling author of "How to Find True Love: Unlock Your Romantic Flow and Create Lasting Relationships," and founder of The True Love Society. As host of the popular Dear Franny podcast and a two-time Survivor contestant, Francesca brings a passionately pragmatic approach to questioning the dating status quo and helping people strengthen their love confidence.
Fresh from celebrating her 51st birthday, Francesca shares her commitment to making this year an experiment in possibility.
Their conversation centers on the powerful question: "What is your assignment right now—and if not now, then when?"
Francesca explains how she developed this concept through her matchmaking work, realizing clients needed to understand their own inner work rather than outsourcing connection. She offers practical tools: start with a five-year vision, work back to six months, then three months, breaking the journey into tangible steps while building self-trust.
The discussion takes on deeper urgency as Anne and Francesca explore current world events through the lens of their family histories—both having fathers from the WWII generation. This proximity to history adds weight to the question "if not now, then when?" and the need to step up as leaders to create the world we want to see.
As she prepared for her second TED talk on unlocking flirting superpowers, Francesca embodies her philosophy of possibility thinking.
A thought-provoking conversation about finding clarity in chaos, taking aligned action, and believing we deserve the lives we envision—both individually and collectively.
Happy listening!
Selected links from episode
Connect with Francesca:
Website: FrancescaHogi.com
Instagram: Francesca Hogi known as Dear Franny
LinkedIn: Francesca's LinkedIn
Her first TED talk: True love — and the myth of "happily ever after"
Her recent TED Talk: How to Unlock Your Flirting Superpowers
Her book How to Find True Love
Dear Franny Podcast https://dearfrannypodcast.com
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