In Episode 10, we resume the conversation on identity - Gene opens the conversation by talking about how he categorizes the major facets of his identity, particularly his race and how his early family experiences influence his social behaviors even today. We discuss how our identities influence the way we form connections and relationships with others, for example seeking out those who are similar to us versus being attracted to people who are opposite to or very different from us. We also talk about how to parse out what parts of our identities are truly born of ourselves, and what parts are imposed upon us by society. Matt shares more detail about the strength and thriving he found after conversion therapy, and Gene opens up about his thoughts on his racial identity and the personal struggles he has experienced in being a queer person of color living in the states. We wrap the conversation up discussing the question of whether people can really change - what do you think? Do people really change?