Send us a text Most people treat relationships and partnerships like 1 + 1 = 2—two individuals simply adding each other to life. But there’s a better formula: 1 + 1 = 11. In this episode of Mindset Café, we break down the metaphor that a great relationship doesn’t make you shrink, dilute yourself, or lose your identity. You stay a “1,” your partner stays a “1,” and together you become “11”—a stronger, higher-standard force than either of you alone. We talk about public persona vs private real...
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Send us a text Most people treat relationships and partnerships like 1 + 1 = 2—two individuals simply adding each other to life. But there’s a better formula: 1 + 1 = 11. In this episode of Mindset Café, we break down the metaphor that a great relationship doesn’t make you shrink, dilute yourself, or lose your identity. You stay a “1,” your partner stays a “1,” and together you become “11”—a stronger, higher-standard force than either of you alone. We talk about public persona vs private real...
247. The Second Arrow: Ending the Extra Suffering You Create
The Mindset Cafe
22 minutes
1 month ago
247. The Second Arrow: Ending the Extra Suffering You Create
Send us a text Pain shows up on its own schedule; suffering often arrives by invitation. We explore the “second arrow” mindset—an old teaching with fresh power—that separates life’s unavoidable hits from the self-inflicted loops that follow. I walk through why the first arrow is a fixed cost of being human and how the second arrow quietly taxes your confidence, focus, and momentum when you need them most. Across real moments like missed promotions, ghosted texts, and blown deadlines, we map ...
The Mindset Cafe
Send us a text Most people treat relationships and partnerships like 1 + 1 = 2—two individuals simply adding each other to life. But there’s a better formula: 1 + 1 = 11. In this episode of Mindset Café, we break down the metaphor that a great relationship doesn’t make you shrink, dilute yourself, or lose your identity. You stay a “1,” your partner stays a “1,” and together you become “11”—a stronger, higher-standard force than either of you alone. We talk about public persona vs private real...
