In this conversation on the New Ashla Podcast, Michael Perry and Justin Gates explore the complexities of setting and achieving New Year's resolutions, emphasizing the importance of realistic goal-setting, the role of motivation and discipline, and the impact of one's identity on goal achievement. They discuss how to build goals that resonate with one's true self, the significance of consistency over intensity, and the necessity of understanding the nervous system's role in managing stress and change. The conversation also highlights the importance of learning from failure and the need for self-trust in the journey of personal growth.
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Takeaways
We live in a culture obsessed with starting over, but terrible at following through.
Motivation is a horrible fuel for change.
Goals often fail because they are built on unstable foundations.
Real change happens in small, consistent shifts within your routine.
You can't punish yourself into progress; it must be built on self-respect.
Discipline is about repetition and consistency, not rigidity.
The nervous system dictates how much discomfort we can handle during change.
Failure is a teacher, just as much as winning is.
Goals should be aligned with who you truly are, not who you wish to be.
You must learn to work with who you are in the moment.
Keywords
New Year's resolutions, goal setting, motivation, discipline, identity-based goals, nervous system, self-trust, consistency, personal growth, shadow work