Today we’re talking about something tender, something that so many of us carry but rarely put words to: the fear of being too much and at the same time, still not enough.

It’s this quiet tug-of-war inside us, where one part of us worries that we take up too much space, ask for too much, feel too deeply, dream too loudly and the other part worries we’ll never be quite enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough, not successful enough, not whatever enough. It’s exhausting. It’s confusing and it can make us shrink ourselves just to feel safe.

Here’s the truth: you will never be too much for the people who are meant to see you. And you will never be not enough for the life that was meant for you. You are both expansive and tender, imperfect and radiant. The only person who gets to decide if you are “too much” or “not enough” is you.

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