In this candid episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into the messy, beautiful, and often misunderstood topic of masturbation within long-term relationships—the good, the bad, and the ugly.
They open up about real moments in their own sex life, from Lauren recently asking Trey to “hold your cum for me” to their conversations about “tingle time” and what it really means to have mutually pleasurable sex.
At 4:04, Lauren shares how they first introduced the term tingle time—and how Trey wasn’t a fan at first! They discuss the power of withholding, why Trey doesn’t want Lauren to “take one for the team,” and how “hot sex” and “warm sex” have shaped their desires.
Key moments include:
Why being able to talk about sex is more important than how much sex you’re having.
Lauren’s reflections on The Wheel of Consent and why she sometimes chooses not to “give” Trey sex during her work week.
The difference between invitations to mutual pleasure and gifts of sex—and why Trey isn’t disappointed when Lauren says no.
How they’ve deconflated touch and sex, so touch never feels obligatory.
Lauren’s clients who believe masturbation is “wrong” in partnership—and why this belief can be a trap.
They also tease next week’s episode, where they’ll walk through a hypothetical scenario to unpack these ideas even further.
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About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment. • Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/• Subscribe for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love.Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.#MasturbationInRelationships #SexEducationPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #SexAndRelationships #PartnershipPodcast #WheelOfConsent #SexualCommunication #LongTermRelationships #SexualDesire #HealthySexLife