Welcome to "The Problem With" where each week we look into a problem to get a better understanding of it. This podcast has no sponsors, only my businesses and investments, please check out the links below. 📍I'm on a mission to help men check their levels of Testosterone, more info here: https://www.manual.co/smith 👁Please check out and try Neutonic here: https://www.neutonic.com/jamessmith  💪For a free trial of my online personal training app go here: https://www.affordableonlinecoaching.com 💰I help small businesses make money online: https://www.jamessmith.business Psychologist and relationship coach Sadia Khan joins James Smith to unpack the problem with dating apps, modern relationships, and the illusion of infinite choice. Together they explore why technology has made commitment harder, attraction more confusing and why everyone - men and women alike - are struggling to connect in an age of endless swiping. Sadia reveals the psychology behind sex appeal, status and loyalty, explaining how dopamine, dating culture and false advice online are reshaping human relationships. From incel culture and OnlyFans to the fear of rejection and emotional detachment, this is a raw, unfiltered conversation about what’s gone wrong with love… and how to fix it. She explains: ◼️ Why dating apps destroy genuine connection ◼️ How “too many options” kills commitment ◼️ The truth about sex appeal and attraction ◼️ Why men and women misunderstand each other online ◼️ The rise of transactional relationships in the digital age 00:00 – The Problem With People Being Single 01:48 – Three Main Problems: Options, Bad Advice & Monogamy 03:28 – Dating Apps: The Illusion of Choice 05:07 – Genetics, Status & What Women Actually Want 08:08 – The Secret Ingredient: Sex Appeal 11:19 – The Three A's: Attraction, Admiration, Adoration 13:32 – Women and Lust: The Sex Response 16:13 – Sexual Dominance vs Sexual Submission 19:30 – Anxiety Kills Sex Appeal 21:11 – OnlyFans: Manipulating Vulnerable Men 24:40 – Sex Workers and Materialistic Values 28:41 – Masturbation in Healthy Relationships 31:39 – The Sex Toy Epidemic 34:36 – Low Testosterone Nearly Ruined My Relationship 38:29 – Stress, Overtraining & Catastrophic Thinking 41:44 – Natural Ways to Boost Testosterone 44:13 – Why Genetics Matter: The TRT Debate 46:17 – Fat Acceptance vs Reality 49:38 – Why Staying Together Requires No Alternatives 51:14 – Two Types of Men: Loyal to the Woman vs Loyal to the Wife 52:35 – The Dubai Dating Scene Explained 55:34 – Why Russian Women Dominate Men in Dubai 58:38 – Escort Culture & Naive Men 1:01:12 – Corrupt Women vs Good Women 1:04:20 – The Danger of Being 39 and Single 1:08:05 – Four Things to Look For Before Having Kids 1:11:49 – Prenups: A Revealer of Character 1:15:12 – Why Your Partner Needs Financial Independence 1:18:05 – AI Relationships: Glamorizing Loneliness 1:19:22 – New Book: The 10 Red Flags 1:20:56 – Closing RemarksClaude can make mistakes. Please double-check responses. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices