In this episode of The Reclamation Room, I sit down with Margaret, a therapist-turned-dating coach who helps women break free from the cycle of dating the same type of guy over and over again.
We dig into why so many of us get stuck in toxic relationship patterns, how childhood experiences shape who we’re drawn to, and what it takes to finally choose differently. From nervous system regulation to spotting red flags early, this conversation is packed with tools for anyone who’s tired of repeating the same painful dynamics and ready to step into healthier love.
Margaret and I also talk about the messy, beautiful work of self-reclamation: building boundaries, strengthening self-worth, and finding peace after narcissistic abuse.
Key Takeaways:
Healing from narcissistic abuse starts with recognizing patterns.
Therapy and coaching can be game-changers in recovery.
Nervous system regulation helps us break the cycle and feel safe again.
Boundaries aren’t optional—they’re the foundation of healthy relationships.
Childhood experiences influence who we’re drawn to as adults.
We can get dopamine hits from healthy activities, not just toxic highs.
Red flags are easier to spot once we slow down and pay attention.
The empath–narcissist dynamic is real, but awareness creates change.
Self-worth is non-negotiable when it comes to love and dating.
You don’t have to wait until you’ve “escaped” to ask for help.
Links mentioned in this episode:
Book: How to Break Your Addiction to a Person
Margaret's Websites:
If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why do I keep ending up with the same kind of guy?” — this conversation is for you. Tune in to hear fresh insight, practical tools, and the hope that real change is possible.
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