Eli sits down with Hily Dating App's sexologist and sexuality educator Dr. Mindy DeSeta to flip the script on consent. This episode turns “awkward talks” into real-time foreplay—how to ask with finesse, lead with vulnerability, and keep things safe without killing the vibe. They break down why so many daters freeze from performance anxiety, how to start a spicy convo the right way, and why safety actually makes intimacy hotter. Plus, a look at Hily’s new Consent Guard Feature that protects you from any unsolicited spicy pics or sexts. If you’re dating online, this is your playbook for confidence, clarity, and connection. Download Hily Here:  https://hily.go.link/8i2VX Learn More About Dr. DeSeta Here: https://www.instagram.com/drmindydeseta   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice