
What does a healthy sex life in marriage really look like?
In this vulnerable and biblical conversation, we break down God’s design for sex and intimacy in marriage, debunk cultural myths, and talk about how to build emotional, physical, and spiritual closeness with your spouse.
You’ll hear from experienced marriage leaders Darren and Bec about why emotional intimacy matters more than frequency, how porn damages connection, and the power of communication, vulnerability, and shared expectations.
⏱️ Chapter Markers
00:00 – Content Warning & Episode Intro
01:00 – How Important Is Sex in a Healthy Marriage?
05:30 – Emotional Intimacy vs. Physical Intimacy
10:00 – The “Stalemate” Dynamic in Marriage
14:00 – Serving Each Other Instead of Withholding
18:30 – Love Is a Choice, Not a Transaction
22:00 – Communication That Breaks the Cycle
26:00 – How to Talk About Sex With Your Spouse
29:00 – Sex Should Be a Thread Conversation
33:00 – Culture’s Lies & Unrealistic Expectations
36:00 – How Porn Destroys Intimacy in Marriage
40:30 – Rising Stats: Porn and Women
42:00 – Porn, Comparison, and Disconnection
45:00 – What Healthy Sexual Intimacy Looks Like
48:00 – Creating a Shared Vocabulary Around Sex
51:00 – Prayer, Faith & Inviting God Into Your Sex Life
54:00 – Final Thoughts: Get Help, Use Resources, Keep Growing
🛠️ Resources Mentioned:
Happy Marriage Book by Darren and Beck Chapman https://www.thehappymarriage.com.au/book?srsltid=AfmBOoolve7P__PSS7Dkc2kgpGKOW4hB20zyEQXrzTa_-ffh3c2K96on
“6 Types of Sex” - https://www.thehappymarriage.com.au/blog/six-types-of-sex