Unspoken Dating Rules We Broke As Christians (And You Should Too)

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The W Podcast

Tim & Pauline Wheeler

218 episodes

5 days ago

Our goal is to provide you with perspective to help you build a healthy & godly relationship. New episode of "The W Podcast" drops every Tuesday! We are Tim & Pauline Wheeler. Before we met we were both in ungodly relationships that left us empty and hurt. This led us on individual journeys to learn God's way of dating. When we met we decided to have a relationship that honored God but was still fun and exciting! We eventually started helping other couples through small groups to learn to date God's way. We have been married since 2018 and have a beautiful son.

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Unspoken Dating Rules We Broke As Christians (And You Should Too)

The W Podcast

27 minutes 54 seconds

3 weeks ago

Unspoken Dating Rules We Broke As Christians (And You Should Too)

In one year, we went from lusting after each other to hosting God’s presence in our dating relationship. Not by accident—by breaking the unspoken dating rules most Christians accept and building on God’s Word.If you’re tired of “just vibes,” fuzzy boundaries, and lukewarm patterns, this episode shows you exactly how we moved from compromise to clarity and how you can, too.What you’ll learn- Why traveling together while dating isn’t wise for most couples—and what we did instead- Why we paused kissing (and how self-control in dating becomes self-control in marriage)- How mentors, accountability, and paid premarital counseling saved us time, money, and heartache- How to stop “just vibing” and start dating with purpose (questions to ask, rhythms to build)- What surrendering your singleness actually looks like (freedom from timelines + idols)- Why boundaries aren’t bondage—they’re training for a guilt-free marriageWho this is for: Single or dating Christians who want a godly relationship, not a performative one. If you’ve prayed together one minute and crossed a boundary the next, this is your blueprint.Christian dating advice, godly relationship, dating boundaries, purity vs. lust, stop being lukewarm, Christian couple testimony, intentional dating, Christian courtship, premarital counseling, accountability in relationships, how to honor God while dating, hosting God’s presence, Christian relationship tips, how far is too far, travel together while dating, kissing while dating, Christian mentors, dating with purpose, building a foundation for marriageCHAPTERS0:00 From lust to hosting God’s presence (cold open)0:50 Intro, why this matters, last week’s episode tie-in2:51 Rule 1 — Travel together? Our boundary & why9:00 Rule 2 — Kissing is “harmless”? Why we paused12:07 Rule 3 — Mentors, accountability & paid premarital counseling16:19 Rule 4 — No “just vibe”: ask intentional questions, build with vision18:24 Rule 5 — “My relationship, my way” vs. surrendering singleness21:36 Rule 6 — Boundaries ≠ bondage (preparing for a lifetime)24:59 Emotional/pace boundaries: not seeing each other every day26:20 Consequences vs. benefits + next week’s preview27:12 Closing