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The Weekly Hot Spot is a podcast hosted by Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika, with fabulous guests.. These women are active in the real-life fetish scene and do Distance Domination on the phone. Hear candid conversations about sex, fetish, BDSM, kink, phone sex, and even vanilla erotic pleasure. The show airs every Monday at 1 pm eastern. Check out our blog: www.weeklyhotspot.com
Great Sex: Mapping Your Desire with Dr. Jaime Grant
The Weekly Hot Spot
29 minutes
1 week ago
Great Sex: Mapping Your Desire with Dr. Jaime Grant
What does great sex really mean? And why is the simplest question – “What do you really want?” – often the hardest one to answer? In this episode of The Weekly Hot Spot, Mistress Olivia and Mistress Erika sit down with the brilliant Dr. Jaime Grant – researcher, LGBTQ+ advocate, and author of Great Sex: Mapping Your Desire – for a conversation that dismantles shame, celebrates pleasure, and redefines intimacy from the inside out.
This isn’t just a talk about kink or technique. It’s a deep dive into the emotional archaeology of desire – how shame, silence, and societal scripts keep us from claiming our deepest pleasures, especially when those desires feel taboo.
Dr. Grant opens with a powerful admission: she got into this work because she was a “liar” – performing a version of herself to survive a repressive Irish Catholic upbringing. “We all develop a liar,” she explains, “and that liar shows up in our sexuality.”
Whether you’re a submissive wrestling with guilt, a sissy navigating feminization, or someone whose fantasies clash with their identity, this episode meets you where you are – without judgment.
The conversation turns to the “purge cycle” – that all-too-familiar pattern where submissives and sissies throw away their toys and clothes in shame, only to rebuild their collections once again. Dr. Grant reframes this not as failure, but as desire breaking through.
Then comes the practical magic. Dr. Grant introduces her “Name Tag Exercise” – a fun exercise tool where you introduce yourself not by your job or role, but by three words that describe your core desires. Words like slut, rope enthusiast, curious, neuro spicy, bootlicker, orgasm controller.
Mistress Erika shares hers: “Fun. Curious. Obey.” Mistress Olivia, ever the wordsmith, lands on “Control as Connection,” “Intellectual Eroticism,” and “Transformation.” She reveals how power exchange, for her, is a form of artistic expression – a “ballet” of sensual influence – and how she’s turned on more by minds than bodies, drawn to “the space between words.”
But the mapping goes deeper. Dr. Grant applies desire mapping to orgasm control, chastity, and tease/denial – not as games of endurance, but as rituals of presence. “If you’re just going through the motions,” she says, “it’s choreography, not connection.”
True power play begins when you’re grounded in what actually moves you – the raw, vulnerable parts of yourself that turn you on because they feel dangerous.
Fantasy, she insists, is not disloyalty – it’s breadcrumbs. Your roleplay scenarios, dark power exchanges, and gender-bending dreams aren’t distractions from real desire – they are the map. And if someone tries to police your inner world? “You’re with the wrong person."
The episode closes with a radical truth: You already have everything you need. The voice of shame – that internal critic whispering, "You shouldn’t want this" – that voice is not yours. It’s the echo of a priest, a parent, a culture. Desire mapping helps you trace that voice back to its source, so you stop obeying it and start honoring your sacred material: your body, your history, your truth.
If you’ve ever felt like an imposter in your own pleasure… If you’ve silenced a fantasy because it didn’t fit your identity… If you’ve wondered why surrender feels so terrifying – and so freeing……this episode is your invitation to map your desire – not apologize for it.
Tune in. Listen closely. And start asking yourself the question that changes everything:What do you really want?
The Weekly Hot Spot
The Weekly Hot Spot is a podcast hosted by Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika, with fabulous guests.. These women are active in the real-life fetish scene and do Distance Domination on the phone. Hear candid conversations about sex, fetish, BDSM, kink, phone sex, and even vanilla erotic pleasure. The show airs every Monday at 1 pm eastern. Check out our blog: www.weeklyhotspot.com
