“ I wish we would have left the gender war in pre-school.” I didn’t know how incredibly short-sighted I was being when I claimed I hated men. I was very vocal about it too. I went the whole nine yards with my words screaming that men are trash. I thought I was being feminist but I realised I was just being sexist. My performative feminism was just disguised as sexism. I realised that instead of high-lighting women’s struggles or issues… I just screamed about men. So I decided on becoming apathetic towards men rather than hating them. This is a short account of how I went from “men are trash” to “well, I don’t know why people think feminism is akin to hating men when patriarchy affects both women and men.”