Sometimes the best plan is no plan at all. Welcome to an “Un-Prepped” episode of The Why Of It All — part catch-up, part therapy session, part who-knows-where-this-will-go. No structured outlines, no notes, we’re just wingin’ it — because life and healing aren’t scripted…and we’re learning to let go and embrace the flow.
What happens when you say “yes” to a co-parenting beach camping trip with your ex… even though your nervous system is quietly begging you not to go? In this deeply honest episode, Gina opens up about a weekend that looked picture-perfect on the outside but revealed a lifetime pattern of self-abandonment and people pleasing she didn’t realize she was still holding on to. She and Melanie unpack the GIFT of the experience, the profound new awarenesses she gained, and the difference between consciously sacrificing for your child vs. sacrificing your own mental and emotional health.
Later, they explore how a mother’s dysregulated nervous system can imprint on her baby in utero, and how language keeps old stories alive (shifting from “MY anxiety” to “I am experiencing anxiety”). Melanie brings in Neville Goddard’s “assume the feeling of the wish fulfilled,” and they get into how embodiment, not just insight, actually moves you from “healing” to “healed.”
In the second half, Melanie shares how a simple daily practice of noticing “simple joys” (and turning them into reels) completely shifted her out of overwhelm—using the reticular activating system and the “hedonic treadmill” to train her brain for joy and gratitude. From empty laundry baskets and falling leaves to no-makeup reels and letting go of perfectionism, this conversation is a grounded reminder that discomfort often offers the perfect growth opportunity to step into a greater version of you.
If you’ve ever struggled with self-abandonment, perfectionism, overwhelm or navigated co-parenting after divorce, or wanted a practical way to raise your vibration through everyday life, this unprepped and unfiltered conversation will meet you exactly where you are.
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